Like A Girl

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Aim for Emotional Intelligence

To most people, being a professional is about having the opportunity to build a strong professional network. That involves sharing only appropriate information within our circles. Once something is shared, there is no going back!

There exists a subtle line, beyond which you’d be sharing too much information. And that would put you in the danger zone. The trick lies in understanding this line.

We need to escalate emotional intelligence in ourselves, and avoid revealing things that could have a devastating effect on our career —

Tip #1: Never reveal how much you hate your job.

If you constantly talk about how much you hate your job, you will definitely come across as a person with negative vibes, and a bad team player. Something worse could happen — the assignment which you were actually capable enough to do, and was supposed to be assigned to you, might be taken back!

Tip #2: Don’t question people’s core values.

It’s quite important to understand that people generally build their lives around their ideals and beliefs. Disagreeing with them can quickly alter their perception, to be against you. When we confront someone’s core values, the person is bound to feel insulted.

For many people, topics like religion and politics tend to be sensitive. Different people hold different opinions about these subjects.

Avoid bringing up a hot-topic that could potentially burn bridges. Political and religious beliefs are intensely entrenched into people. When you challenge their views, you’re more likely to be judged.

Tip #3: Try not to disclose your income

Avoid revealing how much income you pull in each month. If you do, co-workers usually start drawing comparisons between how much you generate versus the amount of work that you do.

It is definitely tempting for the manager to swap your performance feedback with the buddy out of curiosity or jealousy.

Tip #4: Don’t put your peers down

Managers are requested for feedback about their teams by the management above them. This is usually to identify incompetent people in any workplace, and take measures to improve their performance. But, there’s a good chance that your peers already know who they are.

If echelons don’t bear much abdomen to improve or to fire them, then there is no gain by broadcasting their ineptitude. Announcing your colleague’s incompetence is an insecure stunt to make look one better.

And lastly,

Tip #5: Don’t talk about your sexual adventures at your work-place.

Avoid babbling about your sex-drive. There’s no need to mention if it’s entirely missing, or whether you’re getting some action — because such information has no place at work.

Such comments might get a tee-hee from some people, but it proves to be potentially uncomfortable and even offensive to those around you.

The essence of education involves you minding your thoughts and words. Of-course, your thoughts are your own. It’s okay to have opinions about people, but it’s a different matter when you verbalize them. More often, just keeping it to yourself is the best strategy.

Thank you for reading. Do you have any tips on improving emotional intelligence that you’d like to share? Let’s discuss in the comment section!