Don’t Let The Bastards Grind You Down
“Nolite te bastardes carborundorum. Don’t let the bastards grind you down.” — A Handmaid’s Tale, Margaret Atwood.
Dear Amazing Female Friends, that I have now and that I haven’t yet met: You have so much to offer and we need to hear from you, need to see you and need you to keep going and making the world a better place — but also a different place that is only possible with you. Because I work with women, in technology and elsewhere, I support women and I am friends with women, and because I’m open to hearing their stories of being pushed down because of their gender, and because it makes me sad and angry, I write you this letter.
Sometimes things will suck — and things will suck more for you because you’re a woman. You have what it takes to rise above, to persevere, to fucking win by not quitting, by not giving up, by fighting and owning your ideas, your voice and your place in this world. You Can Do It. I’ve seen you do it before and if you want to you can keep on doing it.
You have what it takes to rise above, to persevere, to fucking win by not quitting, by not giving up
I hope you remember that vulnerability can be a strength and that asking for help is okay. I really mean that. Take care of yourself — put your oxygen mask on first. If you decide to ask me for help, to support your career, your work, your vision, your happiness — to just support you — I will be there to help you. We’re going to cross the finish line together. (And there is no finish line…but we can still do this together).
If you are looking for support — I got your back. I will listen, I will share my thoughts if you’d like to hear them and I have a network of awesome and I will call on them on your behalf and soon they will be your network of awesome as well.
On days that you face adversity because you’re a woman, I hope this note can take the sting out of that moment — at least a little.
You are #Awesome, #Fierce and #Strong. When things feel unfair and too hard and utter bullshit — you’re probably right. And this too shall pass and if you want it…I will help you. And when you need to catch your breath, or call it a day — that’s okay too. I just hope that you get to do that on your own terms and that you do for no one other than you.
When things feel unfair and too hard and utter bullshit — you’re probably right
#DontLetTheBastardsGrindYouDown. Because Ain’t Nobody Got Time For That.
And — I have time for you. Lots of us do.
I am your ally.
I will stand up for you.
I will second your opinion.
I will call out bullshit.
I am not alone in being an ally.
You are Not Alone.
We are here and we will do this together.
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