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I’m more concerned with pay gap, than thigh gap.

Let’s talk about what really matters to women.

I’m concerned about the gaps between what really matters and what the media wants us to think is important. The gaps between what’s labeled as important, and what really is important to humanity.

The gap between what we think we need to have or buy or be to live a happy and fulfilled life versus what we really need.

Standing in line at the grocery store, all I can see are air-brushed models and stories about cheating and dieting. Reality is, I’m tired of it. And a lot of other people are:

How To Check Out: Reading the magazine covers in the grocery line

The “magazeducation” we feed ourselves and our kids is an exaggerated and honest look at what modern day society is consuming and digesting. We are what we eat — or are we? *Have you noticed how much Kardashian drama is constantly fed into the news feeds of Snapchat, that our young teens and preteens eat constantly for breakfast, lunch and dinner?

The Grocery Line, The Swimsuit Issue, and Kids

There are a ton of conversations that can come out of this, but today I want to talk about the gap between where society sets a woman’s value; taking it away from her contribution and continually trying to keep her value set on how she looks.

The gap between what the media wants us to think is an ideal woman, and what a woman really looks like:

I want to change the conversation, so our girls, our minds, our goals are less about the splashy magazine covers that glamorize bodies and looks and bring more to the truths around what’s really happening in our homes, our businesses our government — the places where women are working hard, alongside men to create, save and design our future.

The gap between what women are paid in comparison to what men are paid, for the exact same jobs.

And if you think it feels absurd as a grown woman, try listening to the programming we’ve given our kids around this. It’s easy to see in this clip from Jimmy Kimmel, that we have a lot of work to do for both young girls and boys as far as gender equality language and appreciation. If a young girl is saying women get paid less for the same work because they’re wasting their time “online shopping and stuff” it shows what we’re saying at home is creating our future.

Gender equality starts at home. Gender equality starts in the way we speak of the world and of ourselves. Pay gap will decrease as gender equality increases, it’s simple math.

One element that directly effects the gender pay gap, is job hours and business hours. This clip dives into why this matters.

Thanks to globalization and the internet, more jobs with flexible hours are available and that means women who take on the bulk of unpaid work around childcare and home administration, can continually close the wage gap caused by requiring flexibility.

But there’s a cost to that too, the cost of overworking and exhausting half of our population. The price of keeping the same standards of practice at home, where childcare and home care has primarily been the woman’s responsibility. These statistics are changing — men are stepping up and taking on more responsibilities around home and women are finding companies are getting better at acknowledging work competence rather than business hour attendance.

At this rate, studies show we will close the gap, but sssslllllloooooooowwwwwlllyyyy.

*These infographics even show the wage gap GROWING in North America at this current time.

How can we help reduce the Gender Pay Gap faster?

As we all know this isn’t a quick fix problem, there are many ways to approach closing the gap, here are a few:

Wage Transparency brings Parity

Pay on performance rather than gender. An open book practice on employee renumeration seems like an easy way to keep companies honest and highlight discrepancies based solely on gender. This is a new practice, growing in popularity but still has it’s risks and edges that many companies find too cumbersome to overcome.

  • Pros:

Better Data Equals Greater Pay Equality

  • Cons:

The Case Against Pay Transparency

Gender Equality means Pay Equality

The more women are seen and treated as equals to men, around the world, the better it is for everyone.

Educate, Educate, Educate, Educate

  • Educate women and help make education available to every person on this planet equally.
  • Educate girls to explore possibilities beyond the social norms they have been taught.
  • Educate parents on how to speak in gender equal language in their homes and in their relationships.
  • Educate businesses to remove age old patriarchal practices and positions.

Recognize and Redistribute Unpaid Work

Women are the worlds workhorses for unpaid labour, which in capitalistic terms, means less valuable labour but in terms of human happiness and survival levels, much of the unpaid labour of women is key to our survival as a species.

Unpaid work must be recognized, reduced and redistributed in order to close the gender gap. What if there was a way to acknowledge and remunerate value on the basis of contribution to mankind rather than our current model of payment for goods and services rendered outside of the home?

How Society Pays When Women's Work Is Unpaid

Focus on Gender Harmony

Sometimes, it’s the equation of both male and females working together that creates the greatest work environment and results. The call for parity is one to enhance both sides, not create separation.

Closing the pay gap is a call to action to allow both men and women work and be acknowledged for all the value they both bring to the workforce and to how they increase our quality of life. True harmony comes from acknowledging the benefits and value of every voice in the chorus.

3 Ways to Create Gender Harmony in Your Company & Products

When it comes down to it, thigh gap is an empty space, the pay gap is a space ripe a with opportunity, let’s talk about that.

Have comments or thoughts about the Pay Gap or Thigh Gap? Please comment below, I love open discussions.

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And as a woman, here’s a great article about more Gaps you may not have even thought about:

16 Gaps Facing Women Today