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Q: What is the Most Feminist Thing Your Dad has Said or Done?

Two years ago my Dad and I went on a trip, just the two of us, to visit my grandfather’s childhood town in Holland.

My Dad has always been extremely supportive. He has two strong feminist daughters in no small part because of who he is and what he taught us. This weekend I called him for father's day and we had a good 40 minute chat about the small and big things in life while I watched my daughter play field hockey.

My Dad, an avid fisherman, told me about a recent fishing trip he had gone on with a long time friend and the friend’s pastor. After fishing for most of the day the pastor asked my Dad what he thought about women in leadership in the church. I don’t think he was quite ready for the reply.

The pastor, a man in his mid thirties, was probably not quite ready for what my Dad, in his early sixties, was going to say.

I think women should be encouraged to take leadership roles in the church. We are currently missing out on the intelligence and ideas of 50% of the population.

The pastor then asked him about what he thought of 1 Corinthians 14:35

As in all the congregations of the saints, women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the Law says. If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church

What did my Dad say to that?

What I believe Paul was referring to was that no one should speak without being educated. In that day and age the only way Women were allowed to be educated was through their husbands. Since Women today are highly educated, they can and should participate in all aspects of the church.

This spurred a productive conversation on the topic, in the middle of the wilderness, with no women around. While the pastor wasn’t prepared for the answer, he did engage. Maybe my Dad’s comments made an impact. This is what feminism looks like.

What has your Dad taught you about feminism?

How has he made you proud?

Thanks for always supporting me Dad and holding those slimy fish for me!